Flipped Around

*Middle school starts in 7th grade in my school district*
6th grade. 6th grade was when it all changed. How? I don’t know. Up to this day, I continue not to know. But it happened, and I still remember.
I had friends, quite a few actually. We were close, and I was in a group of 3 best friends – myself and two other girls. I had introduced them to each other in the 3rd grade, and we grew to be the best of friends – or so I thought. A few months into the 6th grade, I noticed a shift in the atmosphere when the three of us would get together. It wasn’t US, it was them and me. It was separate. I was isolated. We continued to grow apart, myself alone and them together, and I didn’t mind it too much. Yes, I had lost my two closest friends, but I would find other ones. I couldn’t have been any more wrong. Gossip and rumors were soon to follow.
At the beginning of the next year – middle school – things took a turn for the worst. I entered the school doors on the first day of school with a smile on my face, only for it to be turned upside down by the end of the day. I was hated. You think I’m exaggerating — I’m not. I was literally hated. I walked through the halls hearing disgusting names being yelled after me. I ended the day with pieces of gum being stuck in my hair. I entered the lunch room with absolutely no one to sit with and only glares and laughs being thrown at me. It was awful. That is all I can say. And sure, you’re thinking, it ended soon. Wrong. It continued for the next 2 years of my middle school life. It ruined school for me. Something I had cherished, something I had loved, was utterly and completely ruined by what these kids had managed to do. And let me tell you one more thing. It was not just a few kids. It was the ENTIRE school. All 400 people, or so it felt like, despised me. And why? I still don’t know.
Towards the end of my 8th grade year, a student noticed the cyber-bullying that I was enduring online and anonymously brought it up to the vice principal. The next day, I was called into the office to discuss the situation. Several weeks of investigations and meetings later, a legal report was filed to the state under New Jersey’s Anti-Bullying Law.
This was all last year. I am not in 9th grade, and attend a private school. Let me tell you – I have never been happier in my entire life. I cannot emphasize the joy and anticipation that I feel as I wake up each morning. I enter the school building with a smile on my face, warmness in my heart, and a bunch of friends who appreciate, love, and care about me. I have gone back to loving school, and would not trade how I feel now for the world.
Honestly, I don’t know if the bullying was what was meant to be. Maybe without it I wouldn’t be in the school I am now. Maybe without it I wouldn’t be the strong individual that I have grown (or am growing) to be. However, I will continue to wonder for years what it is that caused it to happen. I will never forget. I will never forget how a few girls had managed to make my middle school years so miserable.


One Response to “Flipped Around”

  1. Rachael | February 26, 2014 at 5:23 pm #

    You are so lucky that you got the help you needed. I hope you will share your story often, help others in similar situations and be willing to put your self out there to make a difference. Your life would turn out completely different if not for the one person who cared and anonymously took the issue to the vice principal. You owe your positive future to that anonymous friend.

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