Pressure for Perfection

As an avid member of pageants, I work with many wonderful girls who support a multitude of worthwhile causes. I chose Anti-Bullying as my own personal platform because it hits close to home, and I honestly believe everyone goes through some form of this throughout their lives.

Growing up with the pressure of social media, pageantry, and networking was enough. I constantly felt not pretty enough or not skinny enough. I went to extremes in attempts to starve my body and achieve the seemingly ‘perfect’ appearance that I desired. I wanted to be as thin as the girls I saw in the media, and I constantly compared myself to the other girls. I felt ugly and filled myself with self hatred. There were days where I went home and cried to myself, hating who I was and how I looked. I never felt good enough, and constantly felt judged.

Going into high school, I encountered my first form of severe bullying: cyber bullying. A Facebook hate group was created against me, spreading malicious lies and horrid rumors about me. I was shocked and deeply hurt. I could not believe the level of immaturity presented- I did not know people could be so cruel. Those who I believed were my friends turned against me. In my narrow-minded and closed off world, I felt like everyone was against me.

The dust began to settle and things moved on, until things took a turn for the worse once again. Posts began popping up on Twitter and Instagram about me by a girl who I once considered a great friend. The things that were written were nasty and laced with profanity- things I would not dare repeat. They posts created a false appearance of me- it described a girl completely opposite if what I am. It was all spun out of a misconception, which is how I believe most things come out of.

Although I am still struggling with bullying and my self esteem isn’t exactly where I want it to be, I am able to take my past experiences and transform it into something wonderful. I want to take my past and use it to help other girls and boys who have gone through the exact same thing: eating disorders, bullying, or any form of hatred.

If we only take a moment to really talk to one another and take a step back, I honestly think that bullying could cease. Bullying is a choice; we can CHOOSE to stop it. What I love about this organization is that instead of taking a passive stance and teaching kids ways to not get bullied, we’re teaching kids not to BE a bully.

If you need someone to listen to or you would like to aid me in my journey to continue spreading awareness about bullying, contact me at: or I choose to turn this world around, I choose to put a stop to bullying, I choose to start a revolution.

What do you choose?


5 Responses to “Pressure for Perfection”

  1. Jacob | December 31, 2013 at 3:22 pm #

    Beautifully written story- stay strong and keep fighting.

  2. Claire | December 18, 2013 at 7:08 am #

    You’re very inspirational. Thank you. Best wishes to you

  3. Anonymous | December 18, 2013 at 7:07 am #

    I love this article

  4. Mimi | January 14, 2013 at 3:25 am #

    In response to your comment- I believe bullying stems from rumors, insecurities, and just misconceptions about a person. There’s no blanket answer about why someone bullies someone else. But if we work together to stop bullying, I honestly believe it will eventually cease.

  5. Anonymous | January 11, 2013 at 5:15 pm #

    Why do they want to bully

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