Beyond the cliché ‘kill them with kindness’, fighting anger and resentment with passive silence, calm attention, or even a quiet word of kindness has the amazing effect of completely throwing the bully – whomever it may be – off of their guard. Of course, I understand that this doesn’t work in every situation, all the time, but in my experience kindness is one of the most powerful weapons we have.
Kindness has helped me build up my own inner strength and self-confidence without regard for what my tormentors thought of me. It has helped me face down people who sought to take away what happiness I have found in the world, and has turned me into an independent, self-assured woman who is hardly bothered by direct attacks of hatred anymore. Instead, it has taught me to focus on the beauty of genuine friendship and has taught me to trust in people who are actually worth my time and energy.
It’s never easy facing opposition, especially when it comes from someone close to you, whom you’re supposed to trust and respect. However, if you can find the strength within yourself to be not a victim of your circumstances, but a survivor of them, you’ll turn out to so much better than your bully could ever hope, and no one can take that away from you.